How your belief systems are sabotaging your success
“It’s not the events of our lives that shape us but our beliefs as to what those events mean.” Anthony Robbins
Beliefs are how we create meaning for our experiences to make sense of the world. They are ultimately an acceptance that something exists or is true for us.
Without thinking, subconsciously, we are constantly giving meaning to everything that happens to us. The meaning we set can make all the difference to how we feel about our lives and the world. Helpful or unhelpful, they shape our reality.
It’s our brilliant subconscious at work, so we don’t have to think about and consider everything we do repeatedly – you can think if it as your internal auto pilot.
Our subconscious mind continues to collect evidence to support our beliefs and ignore anything to the contrary. We reinforce the belief until it becomes our reality. This is our unconscious evolutionary drive to avoid pain and feel safe at work.
From birth, our experiences shape many of our beliefs about the world, from who we are, whether we are loved and safe, and what we are capable of in the world. Although we mature, unfortunately, our beliefs do not. Many are outdated and all are operating unconsciously, so we are unaware of them.
“What you see is filtered through your beliefs. You rarely see “reality”. You see your version of it.” Joe Vitalie
The same event can happen to many people, and yet they will all experience it differently, giving a particular meaning based on their own lives, upbringing, culture, and what it means to them personally.
Ultimately, our subconscious mind works by categorising events, people, places, and situations as safe or not. It is that black and white – things are perfectly safe or life threatening. Your subconscious will do whatever it takes for you to avoid anything that could endanger your survival. And this is a good thing, unless it is an old pattern that is unnecessarily sabotaging your success.
How do I know I have beliefs that aren’t working for me?
These are a few examples that show you may have unconscious, outdated belief systems:
- You feel ‘triggered’ by a person, place, or situation
- The level of your emotional reaction makes little sense to the current situation
- You feel ‘like a child’ or like you felt as a child
- You’re blocked from achieving a goal or a dream despite your efforts
- You recognise patterns repeating in your life
- You’re blaming others for your current situation or feelings
- You’re judging others behaviour in some way.
What is self-sabotage?
Ultimately, when we are not experiencing a life of joy and meaning then we are getting in our own way. We are undermining our own efforts for success, whatever success looks like to us.
Some examples of self-sabotage can include:
- Neglecting ourselves
- Toxic relationships
- Resisting change
- People pleasing
- Working in a job that makes us unhappy.
Negative or outdated beliefs will be the root cause of this. When I identify these in a session, clients often have an eureka moment and say: “Ah yes, I get that. That makes sense to me” even if it may not make sense to anyone else.
How do I change my outdated beliefs?
There are many ways to change your subconscious beliefs. The quickest and most effective way that I have found is through a Belief System session. There will be many belief statements attached to a ‘Faulty Core Belief’ that make up a belief system. I will identify them and we will clear all of them in a session. There can be many belief systems that are contributing to whatever challenge you are facing. Each belief system session creates an incremental shift in your life. I have seen amazing results in a single session, and I have personally experienced the complete life shift of multiple sessions.
What is also wonderful about these sessions is that we get to replace the negative belief statements with positive ones. These life affirming statements come from your subconscious wisdom and are unique to you.
How many sessions will I need?
The number of sessions you need will depend on how you feel, what you want to work on and where you want to get to.
I am always happy to meet before we begin, to understand what is important to you and what you want to achieve. Your attitude and choices define and change your life.
These sessions are fascinating, and I am excited and intrigued as much as you are to discover and release what is holding you back.
Here’s to your best life.
With love – Jane